Man has pondered the mind for eons. It has baffled and excited him like no other subject. I’m sure if you asked a behavioral scientist, “why we act the way we do?” He would give more answers than you cared to know.
Like, most people walk around in a trance sabotaging themselves at every turn. Not to mention, that stopping self sabotaging behavior could lead them to success.
Scientist believe that there is no limitation to the mind. There is no limitation to what a person can accomplish. So, why do so many people go through life accomplishing nothing?
Why would a person just go through life an some even check out of life and become beggars on the street? They have no ambition whatsoever. They believe a life of success is not for them but for those other people.
Yet we know there is no limit to what you can learn. You can continue to learn barring any mental illness until the day you die.
The Power Of A Paradigm Shift
The way we think has a lot to do with how we navigate through life. Thus, a timid person goes through cautious and afraid. While a bold person will go through life taking risks.
The results you get in your business, marriage, relationships, etc. is an expression of what’s going on inside. You can’t let what’s going on outside interfere with what’s going on inside.
The results always tell the truth. Take a close look at your results and ask yourself, “how did your results happen?” Everyone wants to permanently improve their results. If you want to change your results you must change your paradigm.
We are the only creatures that can get outside ourselves and look at our behaviors. Paradigm, a mental program that has almost exclusive control over your habitual behavior. And almost all of your behavior is habitual.
To be able to shape your future you have to be willing and able to change your paradigm. Paradigms are a multitude of habits, usually other people’s habits. Poverty consciousness is passed down from one generation to the next.
Moreover, I remember reading an article years ago about a study done on a family. This article was centered around a family three generations and they were all on welfare.
The writer said that when the family got together for a meal most of the conversation was centered around welfare. Welfare for that family is the norm not the exception. Another generation being on welfare will more than likely be the result.
It Is All About The Mind
Are you afraid of success? The majority of people asked that question would probably say no. Yet they continue to self sabotage themselves out of success. What are some signs of self-sabotage? Here are a few:
- When things get a little tough you quit.
- You let people monopolize your time.
- You spend a lot of time planning with no execution.
- You fear change.
- Always starting but never finishing.
- Listening to your inner critic.
- Drinking too much alcohol.
- Taking illegal drugs.
- Too much self-medicating.
- Over eating or eating the wrong things
- People pleasing
- Blaming inability to take responsibility
- Refusing to ask for help
You may not have even been aware that you are self sabotaging yourself. How do we get caught in self sabotage? Usually from self debilitating beliefs. Like I said before they can be passed down from generation to generation. We have a tendency to mimic our parents.
Stop Self Sabotage Behavior
How can you stop self sabotage? One way is to examine your thoughts. What are you thinking? Are your thoughts positive or negative? You must become more aware.
Question your lifestyle choices. Watch the things you habitually do and replace your negative habits with positive ones.
Do you know your triggers? If you’re a recovering alcoholic you can’t hang around people that drink alcohol no matter how much you love them. Avoid extreme emotional situations.
Don’t play the victim you are in control. Be disciplined. Discipline: the ability to give yourself a command and then follow it.
Change the way you feel about yourself. You are capable. You can do what you set your mind too. Believe in yourself. Think bigger.
Learn from your mistakes. There is nothing worse than repeating the same mistake over and over. That’s kind of like the definition of insanity, doing the same thing and expecting a different result.
In summing up you must become more aware of you’re self sabotaging behaviors. If there is a problem in your behavior then there is a problem in your mind.
Be aware of your thoughts. Thinking is the highest thing you are capable of.
The most powerful ability is your ability to choose. Choose to change. Choose to be bold. Choose to win.
Take risks and defeat fear. The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.
Continue to grow and continue to learn. In times of change the learners will survive in the earth. They will be able to evolve to deal with the world.
Focus on success. Whatever you focus on becomes real for you even if it’s not.